Source: Take Care of Your Type

Peacemakers usually don’t act like they care about things such as what restaurant their friends want to eat at or what time they should all meet up, but most Peacemakers, when honest with themselves, actually have strong preferences when faced with these kinds of decisions. They maintain a particular “aesthetic,” if you will, and they ideally would rather not stray from that aesthetic. Whether it’s the way they dress or the things that they eat, they like their way of being and don’t have a desire to change it. But Peacemakers want to be perceived as nonchalant and flexible, so these preferences will fall to the wayside when they’re around people who have asserted their preferences already.

A small self-care challenge I have for Peacemakers is: The next time you’re with a group of people and a decision needs to be made, before you say, “I don’t care” or “I’m fine with anything,” ask yourself, “Do I care? Am I fine with anything?” Sometimes the answer genuinely is, “I really don’t care right now, and I would be fine with anything.” Other times, you do want something in particular deep down, but feel too selfish to share it. Learn to know those differences, and let others in on them. Learn to know why it is you don’t feel like those preferences are important, even though they are.