Source: Psychology Junkie

The lifelong struggle of Enneagram Type Nines is tuning out of inner Feelings and instincts to cope with the fear of loss or conflict.

Nines believe in maintaining internal as well as external peace. They work to maintain harmony not only outside themselves, but inside. They look at the bright side of life and are usually easy-going and in tune with the spiritual world. If you identify as a nine you tend to struggle with saying what you want or standing up for yourself because you don’t want to “rock the boat”. You may find that you disappear into the background when tensions in your environment arise. Either you become the peacemaker or you make yourself scarce so as to avoid disrupting your inner harmony. You might be tempted to go along with other people instead of stating your disagreements. It can feel like arguments aren’t worth having or that your inner anxieties and issues aren’t worth dealing with or mentioning. Unfortunately, this can lead to a feeling of inner loss or confusion about who you really are as a person. You may also find yourself not getting your needs met because you’re so determined not to make a fuss. You might avoid confronting your problems for so long that they sneak up on you and become worse than ever. You also might suppress your anger for long periods of time only to have it bubble up later and pour out into a fit of rage.

Remember that while humility is a good thing, it’s also not wise to discount your needs and abilities. Practice saying “no” when you don’t want to do something. Always agreeing to what other people want might feel easier in the short term, but it can result in passive-aggressiveness, frustration, and resentment on your part. Take some time each day in the morning to determine what you want to get out of your day. Remind yourself that you are allowed to have desires and to take time to meet your needs. Take time to develop your own unique hobbies and talents. Don’t let yourself disappear into someone else’s life.