Source: The Enneagram of Parenting

Getting to School on Time
The more introverted Four-ish children are shy, have trouble being around people for long periods of time, and find grammar school frightening. Those who are extroverted (there are probably fewer of these) are outgoing and look forward to pleasing their teachers and seeing other children. Emotions can control Romantic-style kids. A four-year-old I know was counting on marrying his nursery school friend when they grew up. When her family moved a few miles away, he was inconsolable and wailed all night long. Needless to say, he arrived late to school the next day.

A misplaced shoe in the morning can throw Four-ish children into hysteria or paralysis, so take the precaution of laying out their clothes (if they’re very young) and making sure their homework is located the night before. Four-ish kids will also be slowed down by feeling left out, by a fight with a friend, or by a low-level depression. Monday mornings are usually the most difficult for children who have trouble with transitions. This is when stomachaches are most likely to occur. If your child has this problem, you might suggest that he or she call you from school later in the morning to ease the stress.

Study Habits
If Romantic-style children have trouble starting their homework, explore the reason for it. Plan plenty of time for studying in case they have hurt feelings that need soothing or a bad mood interferes.

Are there family problems or difficulties at school? Develop good communication so Four-ish children feel comfortable telling you what’s bothering them. Since they express their feelings in many ways, not only verbally, it’s important to learn to read them.

School can be a good outlet for Romantic-style creativity through plays, bands, orchestras, art classes, and creative writing. Howard, for example, always presented his reports in rhyme.

Manners
Romantic-style children are often compliant and don’t want to offend. If they aren’t appreciated, however, they can feel resentful and become aggressive or say biting things. Let them know what manners you expect. However, if someone violates one of their strongly held principles, Four-ish kids will be unable to hide their feelings. See this as a strength, and help them find appropriate ways to express their differences